To you, because I got tattoos, I am “asking for it”. But, I’m not, I got tattoos, frankly, because I have body image issues and I wanted…

I am sick and tired hearing the “asking for it” justification for cat calling and other unacceptable behaviours. It’s become automatic and a convenient 3 word mantra to dismiss a woman’s individuality.

As you state Alexandra, you do this for yourself. Which of course is 100% what any human has the right to do. Yet for half the population, much of society still considers them less than or not equal to men. So doing something for yourself? Wha? What self? You “ doll” yourself up like that, you get what you must be asking for?

No.

Said by me with Total. Absolute. Exasperation.( while trying to adjust my potty mouth at the same time…) “Oh good grief. May we finally fix this?”

Great article and writing, Alexandra. Thank you. I look forward to reading more . At the time I posted this, I read your other comments and I am happy for you (and for women in general) about the feedback you have so far received.