(SVT comment #2)
Hello again dear GOBOF,
I hope you already read my comment #1 in this section because this second part is a continuation.
Another saying fits perfectly here: “You are only as old as you feel.”
Just like you can set your own standard for food and appearance, with good health, you can make your age as irrelevant as you choose.
Yes, you do need to ignore the rampant age discrimination out there.
With this in mind, if you wish, your later years can mean so much. A career Chapter Two or Three, perhaps. How about a creator of charitable and not-for-profit gigs? An influencer in your community. Neighborhood secret chef and game night host. The list is almost endless.
There are many ways to build food and/or wine into a new venture where your love of nourishment morphs into a type of friend or community nurturing. Eating and drinking become productive and built into your health plan rather than a fall-back to ageing with nothing else to do.
Of course, you can do nothing with these next years too. It is all your choice. You just have to question whether things like series binging on tv, reading and golf with your mates will be enough to avoid the bored-so-you-binge-eat.
This is all (here I go again with these all of a sudden relevant expressions): “food for thought!”You have much to ponder. Reframing your life at this point vs drinking excessively and/or stuffing your face because: what else is there.
GOBOF, one last thing. I am so sorry about your Dad. Losing him when you could not say that final goodbye is beyond awful. My sincere condolences.
I do want you to think about this next thing, though. With this entire food thing on your mind these days, it is easy to blame it (and yourself) for missing your father’s messages. But just maybe, if you had been doing something else, you also would have missed his texts.
We all get engaged/distracted for so many reasons. At times we put on hold something we feel can wait just a few hours. When that procrastination is as severe as a parent’s passing, that is the worst.It would take anyone time to get over that. Blame and guilt are automatic responses.
Grieve, GOBOF. Please allow yourself to do that. But don’t blame the wine and ice cream. Accept that life throws these curveballs from time to time. Honor your Dad’s memory by using these moments to proactively plan and craft the next decades of your life on this beautiful planet.
A double dose of lemon hugs to you🍋🍋🍋🍋
Suze
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