Henya, I am so sorry this happened to you. Awful.
But you know, it is easy to say to yourself after the fact, “ Why did I ignore my spidey sense?” I know , personally, only too well how easy it is to ignore it. And sometimes “spidey” is wrong. So, also talking to myself here, let’s go easy on ourselves about these things.
It sounds as though you have come to a good place about the whole thing.
Still, what a thing !