Continuing my comment from the CCWP letter to FROM LEMON:

...Luckily and almost on cue, one of us spoke up at that very moment, addressing where we were at the time, recapping and asking about feelings and current state of mind. The other listened, contributed, and you know what? The day turned into a terrific one.

We built on all the goodness instead of each of us retreating to our separate offices, dealing with subtle (or not), bothersome leftover issues.Being aware is the key. But try being able to do that all the time, huh?

However, you, CCWP, and your partner walk the walk, figuring it out daily. Sometimes planning it, and sometimes the vibes between you just make it happen. Like it did in my case this morning.

With this mindset, so well illustrated in your essay, CCWP, when we fall off the wagon, and we will, it is often easier to jump on back up!

About the bed occupancy discrepancy, since, as you say, whether in or out of bed, an exact 50/50 share is unrealistic. Well, I don’t have the answer to that one.

As luck would have it, mattress ownership is fifty-fifty (sort of) in our situation.However, duvet-hogging is another matter.

How often, especially in cold January, do I wake up saying, “Brrrr, where did the duvet go?”🙄

Thanks again, dear CCWP, for your story and your insight.

Much lemony love to you and your partner🍋🍋🍋Suze