Continuation of Suze’s comment from main post:
What I have written so far has worked for me. Solved, I think, by constant communication. Will this be enough for me in the future if my revelations get juicer? Frankly, MHOMS, I don’t know.

I have learned enough over time from many people in my life that words, even when said with all honesty at the time, might not apply later. I plan to keep up the dialogue with him and figure it out as I go.

The worry, I think, is the messes we speak of later became our learning opportunities. So today, because of, you know, growth, we may not repeat a lot of those, um, mistakes. So do I want those raw details about former partners public for my hon-bun to see?

I read this response to him last night, and the sweet-patootie’s comment was, “I don’t think there is anything you could write that would set me off.” He IS probably right. I do believe that our many discussions covered pretty much the whole shebang.

MHOMS. My short answer to you: I do not know. (Big help, huh?🙄) And I get it, I do. The value of mystique in a relationship…

You know what, though? Learning from my other love-interest mistakes has brought me to this wonderful man I married last summer. ( Our wedding day seven and a half years after our first date) .

I’m not sure the old me would have fully recognized that he personifies such a lovely human being. I brand what I see today as “learning” and “growing.” So I have confidence that our open communication about the topic and my trust in his integrity will get us through, no matter what.

The kicker, though, is this. Had you asked me in year one when I was getting to know him, would my answer be the same? No. I can say it today because: eight years, six months.

Bringing us back to you and your very new romance.

I guess, at best, my ramblings give you something to think about, given my own experience. After many discussions, I believe that you will weigh it all up and decide what is best for you at the end of the day.

Is it a bit of a gamble? Yes, I think so. Then again, so much in life is precisely that. As a result, we rely on “trust” and “resilience.”

I could go on for pages about other points in your letter, dear MHOMS. Yet it’s time for me to step aside for the next bit of friend input.

Sending you baskets of lemon-luck, lemon-love and a healthy dose of lemony happiness for you and your new love

XXOO
Suze🍋🍋