Abso-fuckin-lootley you are correct re my highlighted part above.

There is this thing out there that its ok when men do it because : married, because: he can, because: the usual drivel

Yet when women do it, they are sluts, teases and all that bull-malarkey

Stick to your guns, Holly. I know you will. Someday I must write about the colleague telling his ballerina story and his upset/indignation/shock that my engagement with the story..,the story for Pete’s sake, we are talking listening intently only…didn’t mean I wanted to jump his bones.